Many Femdom bloggers are experiencing a case of the doldrums lately. Between boredom, apathy, and uncertainty, there's a certain lack of pizzazz in evidence. I'm no exception, and in examining my own lethargy of late, I find myself wondering if we Doms are not feeling the effects of too much good behavior on the part of our subs.
It seems to me that the more experienced Femdoms are feeling the need for change the most. Queen Goddess is bored, Suzanne seems a bit uneasy, Ms Marie is actively seeking a female sub, Mistress Misty is looking for new subs, and Mistress Forever Hers hasn't posted for some time. All of these ladies are experienced Doms with well trained husbands/subs/slaves, and it appears that they're all looking for something to stimulate them further.
Have we trained the boys so well that we are now the victims of our own success? In my own case, my husband Karl is doing everything I want. After his retraining earlier this year (see my posts from last December through this February), he's adhered to every rule I laid down, is performing every ritual I desire, and is an uncomplaining sub/slave no matter how many obstacles I place in his path. When not in sub mode, he's an intelligent, caring husband with whom I can share intellectual and hedonistic pursuits. I'd have to be some kind of idiot to complain.
And yet.........a certain spark seems to be missing. I'm on record as having said that I believe that the Dom is 95% responsible for the flow of a Femdom relationship, and I still believe that's true. So there's no conclusion that I can reach that avoids the fact that it's up to me to do something about this situation.
For me, this means that a shakeup is in order, and the best way to do that is to change the rules. I don't need anyone's permission to do that, least of all my husband's, so that's what I'm going to do. In essence, I'm about to punish him for all of his good behavior by creating new rules that will force him to struggle enough so that he deserves the retraining and the inevitable punishment that goes with the territory. Is this terribly unfair to him? Of course. Will he realize that I'm doing this just to shake things up? Yes, he's smart enough to get that. Will he complain if I make his life miserable for awhile? I doubt it, but I almost hope he does. That would make it even more interesting.
Just talking about this gets my juices flowing, so I know I'm on the right track. I want the joys of training again, of molding my sub in new directions, and the aspects of training that involve the administering of pain and discomfort in order to achieve my ends are very attractive to the more sadistic parts of me.
What's more, I'm going to change some of my own rules for myself, including the one where I never allow my sub/slave/husband to co-mingle with other subs. I think a little slave competition might be in order. More on this as the situation develops.
I'll stop here for now.
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Photo from THE NEW BOOTBLACK'S OUBLIETTE.
The caption is mine.
