A DECISION REACHED

I've finally made up my mind in regard to whether or not to lend my husband Karl to my friend Vanessa for a day of service.  As those of you following this blog know, Vanessa is a Dom, my very closest friend, and has told me that she would reserve the right to use Karl as she wished, including oral service should she so desire.  I've received many comments via this blog concerning whether or not I should allow Karl to partake in oral service for another Femdom, and I do appreciate the feedback.  Ultimately, of course, the decision is mine, and Karl remains blissfully unaware that this "debate" has been going on.  Since the situation violates none of the hard rules we live by, I see no reason to bring him into the discussion.  As always, what I decree will be what he does.

In the end, I've decided to go ahead with the "loan".  Several more talks with Vanessa have taken place since this all came up, and she claims that the primary turn-on for her in having Karl for a day of work is simply that she gets aroused by totally dominating a man by forcing him to work his ass off for her.  Vanessa is a woman of African-American lineage, and has never forgiven "whitey" for all the years of slavery that her forefathers and foremothers had to endure.  She only dominates Caucasians, and she loves to play the plantation's overseer role, complete with whips, chains, and shackles.  Great fun for her, but I know Vanessa very well, and I know she's a very sexual creature who gets turned on by the helplessness of her slave, and when she's really turned on, she intends to be sexually satisfied.  It's no surprise to me that even though she knows Karl will be wearing his chastity device, she wouldn't do this if she thought that she'd wind up completely frustrated sexually.  Thus, the demand for the right to oral gratification.  I have no illusions as to what might happen.

So, I've decided to put jealousy and possessiveness aside for the moment, and see how this all works out.  In short, my curiosity is getting the best of me, and I'm so intrigued by the possibilities that I simply must go through with it.  It's something very different for me and Karl, and it's healthy to try new things to keep a D/s relationship vital.  If it turns into a negative experience, well, we'll just have learned something new about ourselves.  If it's a positive experience, then we've opened some new doors that were previously closed to us.  Que sera, sera, as the song goes.

It all begins tomorrow.  Karl will go through his morning service routine, and when he's waiting for me to finish my breakfast, I will place his chastity device on him. When I hand him his daily list of duties, it will contain only one item:
1.  You are being loaned to Mistress Vanessa for a day of work at her house.  You will consider yourself in slave mode while there, and you will obey her commands as you would mine.  She has my permission to use you in any way, and she will not hesitate to discipline you if you fail to meet her requirements.  If you are punished, she will inform me of the reason for punishment when she returns you, and you can be certain that I will punish you as well for embarrassing me with unacceptable behavior.  You're wearing your chastity device for a reason.  This is not a sexual adventure in any way, so don't even think about it.  Get dressed and wait for me on your knees by the front door.

I'm following the advice of Dom Queen Goddess and creating a lose-lose situation for Karl by forbidding him any sexual activity.  If Vanessa does order him to perform orally, he'll either have to obey her (thereby disobeying me) , or refuse her, which will undoubtedly result in some serious punishment from Vanessa.  Should be fascinating to see how he handles that if such a situation should occur.  I must admit that I'm turned on by the thought of his potential dilemma.

I'll write about what happened when I get the chance.

COMPLICATIONS

Who would have thought that simply lending out your sub to another Femdom would be so complicated?  As I said in my last posting, I was considering the lending possibility as a means of keeping Karl busy and out of my hair, so to speak, now that he was working one less day a week.  My use of lists has definitely been a positive move in that regard (see my last posting), but I was intrigued with the idea of sending Karl off to serve one of my friends, and in the past he has stated that he wouldn't have any objection to that as long as we adhered to the "hard rule" we set at the beginning of our relationship.  The rule that said he wouldn't be forced to physically interact with another male.

No, the problem, as it turned out, wasn't with Karl, it was with my Dom friends.  Those of you who have followed my blog have read about Vanessa, Patsy and Clarice, but if you're new to these postings let me quickly say that Vanessa is my oldest and dearest Dom friend, with our relationship going back to college and continuing to this day. She was married to a man who was into infantilism in a big way, but she divorced him when he failed to take care of her when she was very ill over a year ago.  She has had on and off subs since that time. Clarice is a female body builder, a Lesbian, and married to a man who served as her benefactor and slave for many years until he had a bad car accident that left him permanently disabled and took "the fun out of abusing him" for Clarice.  She is a physically powerful and somewhat scary Dom.  Patsy you read about in my last posting, so I won't bother with more of an explanation.  Should you be inclined to explore my older postings, there's a lot more information about these three friends of mine.

When considering lending Karl out to one of these ladies, I immediately took Clarice off the list.  She has a bit of a history with Karl, and has threatened to one day have him in her control, at which time she would probably do something physically dangerous to him.  Karl absolutely fears such a situation, and though I tease him about it by threatening to give him over to her for a day or so, I would never actually do it.  Clarice may just be teasing as well, but I'm not completely convinced that she could be trusted to adhere to reasonable limits.  I have seen what she often did to her husband, and she's no one to take lightly.

I have discussed the situation with Patsy and Vanessa, and Patsy was less than enthusiastic at having Karl at her disposal because she already has a finely tuned machine with the subs she currently rules over.  She's not sure she should introduce the element of an additional sub, even a temporary one, at this time.

Vanessa was the real surprise to me.  She was very enthusiastic about taking Karl on loan, but she threw a bit of a monkey wrench into things when we got down to the details.  She has a great many things that she'd want Karl to do for her, but she insists on being able to use him sexually as well.  She knows that I plan to keep him in his chastity device while on loan, and that's fine with her, but she sees no reason that his tongue can't be at her disposal.  As far as she is concerned, cunnilingus and analingus should be fair game, and since it's always been that way with her subs, she sees no reason why Karl should be any exception.  Her exact words:  "It just wouldn't be any fun if I couldn't have my pussy and ass worshipped."

To be honest, I hadn't considered such a possibility.  In my mind, Karl would just be laboring for another Dom, and though he'd be subject to various forms of "difficulty" bondage while working, and corporal punishment if he failed to satisfy the requirements of said Dom, it hadn't crossed my mind that he'd be expected to provide oral service for anyone besides myself.

So, things are up in the air.  I'm spending a lot of time considering whether I want to give Vanessa the right to use Karl in this way.  I know his cock will be out of the picture, but I'm reluctant to allow the oral service from Karl that Vanessa expects.  I haven't ruled it out yet, but I am at a standstill at this moment.  I asked Patsy what she thought about it, and all she had to say was "Hmm.  Keep me out of this".  I haven't discussed it with Karl, as I feel it's my decision as it doesn't violate any hard rules.  I'd welcome some thoughts on the situation.