Here it is just a few days before Christmas, and I'm afraid I misjudged how impossible it is to accomplish anything but holiday related tasks at this time of year. My planned "slave competition" was last scheduled - in my mind - to take place around New Year's eve. Hah! It has become obvious that too many plans would have had to be changed with the Doms involved, and even my own husband/sub/slave needed time for impossible to ignore business related necessities, and the very personal tasks of present buying for me and his daughter, etc.
So, I was forced to face reality and release Karl from his slave mode about a week ago, and temporarily revert to our more normal way of life. Frustrating, but I'm planning to have some diabolical fun as his arm-in-arm wifey at his company Christmas party where he will give his annual speech with nipple clamps firmly attached under his outfit, and a butt plug in place. Tends to keep one's speeches shorter, and as we dance those slow dances and I press myself into his chest while occasionally patting his butt cheeks - well, isn't it romantic!:)
It looks like the middle of January at the earliest for the slave competition. Thanks so much for the fine "game" suggestions from Mistress Forever Hers, Queen Goddess and Fur Sissy ( who has gone above and beyond in his ideas), as well as a few anonymous sources. And one bit of good news that the time delay has made possible - my friend Vanessa just might have found herself a sub who will take part in the competition! She has been circulating again and attending BDSM get-togethers and (no surprise to me, as she's quite gorgeous) has attracted subs like bears to honey. Fingers crossed.
Happy Holidays to All!!
Friday, December 23, 2011
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
ROADBLOCKS
Little did I know when I spoke of coming up with a "slave competition" in my previous post, just how many things were going to get in the way.
First, there's the timing factor. Trying to arrange anything in December with the holidays looming is an exercise in frustration, since there are three other Doms involved (Vanessa, Clarice and Patsy), all with holiday plans of their own. I don't see any way we can all find a time to get together before January, though I'm currently pushing for this to take place on New Year's Eve. I like the symbolism of ringing in the new year with a dramatic end to the old one - maybe having the competition culminate as the countdown ball reaches the ground in Times Square.
The second roadblock occurred because my friend Vanessa is in the process of divorcing her sub/husband. Seems as though his pitiful performance earlier this year when Vanessa was very ill was the straw that broke the camel's back, so to speak. (Read about this here- http://womanincontrol.blogspot.com/2011/01/slight-glitch.html) . His lack of progress in Vanessa's attempt to retrain him wound up convincing Vanessa that he wouldn't be any different if such a thing would happen again, and that he's no longer worthy of being her sub or her husband. Obviously, he won't be a part of the competition, and Vanessa hasn't yet found a replacement for him. I'm trying to convince her to still be involved as a sort of "Ringmistress" for the event, but so far she hasn't committed.
Then there's the matter of logistics. Where will we hold our competition? I assumed it would be at my house, since the whole thing was my idea, but Patsy thinks it should be at her place, which is a large Victorian home, and has some advantages when it comes to some of the possible events we've all discussed. So that's still up in the air.
And finally, and perhaps most importantly, we're having trouble coming up with a slate of "slave games" for the event. Patsy loves to do dress up stuff, heavy on the makeup and costuming, Clarice opts for physical battles, and I prefer more visceral and symbolic competitions. Vanessa hasn't bothered to suggest anything yet. I'm almost wishing that I just came up with everything myself and presented it as a package deal, all set to go, but I didn't, and now that four Doms are involved (assuming Vanessa gets into it eventually) we've got four type A women trying to plan something we've never done before, and each has strong opinions on how to do it. Talk about opening a can of worms!
Well, I haven't given up by any means, and I've already begun preparing Karl by telling him a few days ago that as of now, he's in slave mode whenever he's home, and will be wearing his chastity device for the foreseeable future, unless informed otherwise. Among many other things, slave mode means he doesn't speak unless spoken to, he's to be naked at all times in our home, he's been given very rigid instructions on the duties he must perform for me, and he's basically not allowed to do anything without my express permission except breathe. I'm keeping him very busy serving me, and he's experiencing a lot of bondage, humbler wearing, and physical exertion training. I want him strong, fit and totally compliant for when the slave competition actually happens.
Yes, I have informed him that he will be competing with other slaves, and the stunned look on his face convinced me that I was right in my decision to shake things up and re-start both of our engines. Since he's not currently allowed to speak about anything without my permission, he realizes that this is not up for discussion, which I'm sure is just killing him, but he's wise enough not to challenge my decision, and to trust that I'll live up to our agreement at the start of our marriage that he won't be put into any male-on-male sexual scenario. He needn't worry about that.
More as this develops, and, as always, comments and suggestions are appreciated.
First, there's the timing factor. Trying to arrange anything in December with the holidays looming is an exercise in frustration, since there are three other Doms involved (Vanessa, Clarice and Patsy), all with holiday plans of their own. I don't see any way we can all find a time to get together before January, though I'm currently pushing for this to take place on New Year's Eve. I like the symbolism of ringing in the new year with a dramatic end to the old one - maybe having the competition culminate as the countdown ball reaches the ground in Times Square.
The second roadblock occurred because my friend Vanessa is in the process of divorcing her sub/husband. Seems as though his pitiful performance earlier this year when Vanessa was very ill was the straw that broke the camel's back, so to speak. (Read about this here- http://womanincontrol.blogspot.com/2011/01/slight-glitch.html) . His lack of progress in Vanessa's attempt to retrain him wound up convincing Vanessa that he wouldn't be any different if such a thing would happen again, and that he's no longer worthy of being her sub or her husband. Obviously, he won't be a part of the competition, and Vanessa hasn't yet found a replacement for him. I'm trying to convince her to still be involved as a sort of "Ringmistress" for the event, but so far she hasn't committed.
Then there's the matter of logistics. Where will we hold our competition? I assumed it would be at my house, since the whole thing was my idea, but Patsy thinks it should be at her place, which is a large Victorian home, and has some advantages when it comes to some of the possible events we've all discussed. So that's still up in the air.
And finally, and perhaps most importantly, we're having trouble coming up with a slate of "slave games" for the event. Patsy loves to do dress up stuff, heavy on the makeup and costuming, Clarice opts for physical battles, and I prefer more visceral and symbolic competitions. Vanessa hasn't bothered to suggest anything yet. I'm almost wishing that I just came up with everything myself and presented it as a package deal, all set to go, but I didn't, and now that four Doms are involved (assuming Vanessa gets into it eventually) we've got four type A women trying to plan something we've never done before, and each has strong opinions on how to do it. Talk about opening a can of worms!
Well, I haven't given up by any means, and I've already begun preparing Karl by telling him a few days ago that as of now, he's in slave mode whenever he's home, and will be wearing his chastity device for the foreseeable future, unless informed otherwise. Among many other things, slave mode means he doesn't speak unless spoken to, he's to be naked at all times in our home, he's been given very rigid instructions on the duties he must perform for me, and he's basically not allowed to do anything without my express permission except breathe. I'm keeping him very busy serving me, and he's experiencing a lot of bondage, humbler wearing, and physical exertion training. I want him strong, fit and totally compliant for when the slave competition actually happens.
Yes, I have informed him that he will be competing with other slaves, and the stunned look on his face convinced me that I was right in my decision to shake things up and re-start both of our engines. Since he's not currently allowed to speak about anything without my permission, he realizes that this is not up for discussion, which I'm sure is just killing him, but he's wise enough not to challenge my decision, and to trust that I'll live up to our agreement at the start of our marriage that he won't be put into any male-on-male sexual scenario. He needn't worry about that.
More as this develops, and, as always, comments and suggestions are appreciated.
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