Saturday, June 22, 2013

LISTING

Faced with the problem of what to do with my sub husband Karl now that he was only working three days each week, I turned to my Femdom friends for some ideas.  Having him around so much was eating into my own schedule, and since his sub side was now getting more of a  chance to expand, I felt it only proper that I find a way to encourage his submission while keeping my own needs and desires intact.

My friend Patsy had some excellent suggestions.  She owns a large Victorian house with several floors and many rooms, and has a virtual staff of subs taking care of the house and her needs.  She currently has several sissified males in the role of maids (who also cook breakfast and lunch), one elderly male acting as a sort of butler and overseer when Patsy is not there, and a strapping young male who is a combination evening cook/handyman/jack of all trades.   The sissy maids and butler live in the house, and the cook/handyman, etc, arrives in mid afternoon to start dinner prep and is on-call at all other times when Patsy decides she needs him.

The entire situation  seems quite daunting to me, and I've always been in awe of the coordination required of Princess Patsy (as she is known) for making it all work.  When I explained my current problem with having Karl around so much, she smiled and said one word - "Lists".

"Lists?", I asked.

"Yes" said Patsy. 

"Explain, please," I said

So Patsy went on to describe the problems she had in the early days of setting up her household.  Despite very clear explanations of the various rules of conduct she expected from her subs, their various duties, etc., the subs needed nearly constant attention from her whenever a particular task was completed.  It was always "What should I do now, Princess Patsy?  The bathrooms are clean, should I begin polishing the dining room tables and chairs, or should I start dusting the living room?"  There was always the question of what to do and in which order, and with three full time subs constantly seeking direction, Patsy wasn't having much fun.  After all, she wanted everything to run like clockwork without having to always set various tasks in motion.  She wanted comfort and pampering and not supervising all the time.

"In the end, it was really quite simple," said Patsy, "and I felt stupid for not having thought of it right away."  What she did was give each sub a daily list of what she expected them to acccomplish.  The order in which they did their tasks was up to them, but she expected the lists to be completed by the time her "inspection" took place.  Inspection was usually just before dinner, and since she had explicitly described the requirements of each task during early training of the sub, any failure to complete the list in the prescribed amount of time, and in the proper method, was a punishable offense.  The 'butler" also had his list and what's more was responsible for overseeeing the work of the sissy maids and the handyman (when he was doing a job Patsy had called for), and would also be punished as well if they failed to do their jobs properly.

Punishment from Patsy is not to be taken lightly.  Though small in stature, she brooks no disobedience and does not hesitate to apply her strap, and other implements, when required.  Her many rules of behavior and decorum, her stringent requirements of how to do various tasks to her satisfaction, and her demand for completion of the daily list are painfully understood by her subs.  Karl has experienced her sissification and her disciplinary measures in the past when we had a memorable slave weekend some time ago. 

I could go on and on with a description of Patsy's life, but I digress.  The point she made was that by giving Karl a daily list of what was expected and training him in the proper execution of the various listed items, I would free myself up each day while he went about his business.  I need only be there for inspection and -if needed- punishment, and I could easily write the list before I went to bed each night for presentation in the morning.  Karl already had several rituals that he performed daily (breakfast, cocktails in the evening, foot service when I arrived, maintenance of my shoe collection, etc.) and the addition of a daily list would certainly keep him busy and free me up for whatever I felt like doing.

That's what I do now, among other things I'll get into.  Lists have worked out very well.  As is my habit, I always see to it that Karl has something special each day to remind him that he is serving me.  I find that a little discomfort keeps his mind on me, and I get turned on by the thought of that little discomfort keeping him company even when I'm not there.  Something so simple as a short chain between his ankles and/or wrists when he's doing housework, or a butt plug in place while he's out doing the shopping or doing a workout I've ordered for him at our fitness club (yes, I'm a member and I can appear at any time to check his workout and his hidden "additions"), or any number of things that insure he's thinking of me and knows who is in control of his day.

Of course, my lists are designed to keep Karl very, very busy.  They're not impossible to complete in the prescribed time, but it's never easy for him, and my own particular requirements for proper completion of each task are probably in the category of nitpicks.  Things must be done in the proper manner, or they're not considered done at all.  Not surprisingly, punishments do arrive with some degree of regularity (oh darn), and I dare say I'm at least as unbending in my demands as Patsy.  I suspect Karl would agree:)

One last thing - one of the commenters in my previous post suggested lending Karl out as a way to keep him busy.  That has been the subject of several discussions with my Femdom friends, and though it's not something I've done in the past, it's in the works right now.  More on this in my next post.

10 comments:

  1. I had no doubt that you would find a solution to this problem. During our annual retraining hubbette is retaught his chores and responsibilities so they can be carried out without my direct supervision. I don't need him running up to me asking me what is next or do I want to inspect.

    Sometimes I check and sometimes I don't and that alone keeps him on his toes, or heels depending on the chore. And like you punishment will be carried out for any infraction. I might throw him a curve by binding his ankles or in addition binding his balls to his ankles when it's time to clean the door siles but that is for my amusement, not his.

    In addition I have also had him clean Jan's place as Jan and I went out or clean her car. If he screws up there he gets punished by her and then again by me for embarrassing me.

    I did like the advice you gave the young domme. It's bumpy at first and takes some time but if you stick with ti you will have a well behaved and trained sub. If they are not, that is more than likely on the domme, not the subs. As you pointed out, a true sub craves direction and control.

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  2. Lists! So simple...yet so profound. Loved this post, and may i say it is GREAT to see You blogging again Lady Grey! i have missed reading Your always thoughtful and illuminating posts, which have inspired us in many ways.

    Can't wait to hear about Your lending him out...and if possible, would You mind sharing a couple examples of karl's daily lists? I think J and i would both be curious to see what kind of standards he is held to, especially now that he has more time to serve.

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  3. We Women should always, always be in control of our men lovers, or pretty girlfriends So true!" Rebecca O.

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  4. Girl power all the way! Rebecca O.

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  5. QG - We think alike so often! Your second paragraph perfectly describes techniques that I employ, along with many others. As for lending his services to Jan, that sort of thing is beginning for me as well. More in my next posting.

    ADM - Thank you for the kind words. The lists vary from day to day, but I'll try to be more specific on one or two of them in the furure. As always, send my regards to J.

    Rebecca- So how do you control your man?

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  6. What every good sub wants is direction or a "list". They want to be held accountable and punished for their mistakes. They want to know that we are very serious about their behavior and their service. And loaning them out from time to time works wonders. A well trained and disiplined sub doesn't need constant supervision.

    Kimberly

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  7. Brilliant! We're using this at the moment. Being in charge ought not to be a chore.

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  8. Kimberly - I agree. Have you any personal experience in lending your sub out?

    Giles - Nice to hear from you. Will you be posting about your "listing" experience?

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  9. I enjoy loaning out my sub. But I've learned that it must be to a close, like minded friend. A woman that I know well and she knows me.

    What you don't want to do is loan your sub to some one that thinks different than you do. And may do something that could harm your sub and/or undo his training.

    There are many benefits to loaning out our subs. Just make sure it's to some one you can trust.

    Kimberly

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  10. Kimberly - I agree with you. My latest post - "Complications" - will give you more information on what I'm going through with this situation. Thanks for commenting.

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