In the aftermath of "The Itch" saga, my husband Karl and I talked quite a bit about the various ramifications of my desire to train a novice once again, his acceptance of same, and his expressed desire to experience novice-type training at the hands of a different Femdom. In the end, I decided that it was simply impractical to allow him to to re-trained. He'd already been trained by me when he was a novice seven years ago, and it seemed artificial to me to expect him to forget all of his training and start anew with someone else, pretending, as it were, that he was a novice once again. It was not at all the same as my desire to train an actual novice who would be experiencing submission for the first time.
However, it seemed to me that his desire reflected a "me too" attitude, which was understandable as a reaction to my itch, but more importantly it showed that something might have been missing in our current lifestyle, and that perhaps we had reached something of a ho-hum situation. For that, I had to blame myself, having said numerous times that the Dom in a relationship bears about 95% of the responsibility for keeping things fresh and exciting. With that in mind, I informed Karl that he would not be re-trained as a novice, but that I would take matters into hand and extend his current and ongoing training as a sub to a new level. That new level was to be slavery.
We'd explored slavery before in the form of several slave weekends that had proven to be highly intense for both of us, but this had occurred only a few times in all the years we'd been married. Planning and carrying out these weekends was not an easy task for me, and enduring them was not an easy task for Karl, but if we had indeed reached a ho-hum level, it just might prove to be the fuel we needed to get the engines going once again. This was not to be full time slavery, but it would occur at least once a month and would require Karl to be totally in my control 24 hours a day for at least 3 consecutive days each month. I would also be using the talents of my Femdom friends as "helpers" and participants during these days.
Karl seemed very excited at the prospect, but I advised him to remember well what he'd experienced during these weekends, and to expect no less of an ordeal than he'd previously gone through, and most likely some painful additions as well. If I were going to put forth the effort, so would he, and then some, plus my "helpers" would also have much more latitude than they'd previously enjoyed. I also planned to allow my co-Doms quite a bit of alone time with my newly enslaved husband, often at their homes.
As I said to Karl, "You wanted to be re-trained, and so you shall. Who knows - I might enjoy it so much that we can extend your slave periods to a week or more each month. After all, you wanted some new training, right?" To which he responded with a bit of a gulp, "Yes, Your Highness." I was amused that he remembered the proper term for addressing me when he was in slave mode, and I was also amused to see his cock at full mast while we talked
I told him to expect his first session in November, and I went on the prowl for two things. One, the equipment I needed as a slave master, and the friends I wanted involved; and two, venues from my past that I used to haunt when seeking out a new submissive. The former proved much easier than the latter, as my friends were more than happy to participate and willing to add their "equipment" to the proceedings. I do have to look around for a new chastity device. I want a very small one that would be extremely restrictive and not allow even a modicum of a hard-on for my slave.
As for my old, familiar haunts, many have ceased to exist so that's proving much harder. For the moment, I'm frequenting places that my friend Vanessa prefers, though I've never been a big fan of s/M specific clubs. A bit too much leather for my taste, and often there are men dominating women, which I don't like to be around. Upper end nightclubs are more my style, and I'm currently exploring the latest crop of same.
So that's where things stand for now. More as it occurs.
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Lady Grey, I always enjoy your posts-and especially so when I find a grammar error. I'll let you find it. It's more of a spelling error than a grammar one but it's there :-)
ReplyDeleteTwo comments:
First I think it is fantastic that you are willing to do this for your husband. So few women have the desire to be intentional with their dominance. I find that sad since so little effort on a woman's part goes so far to keeping their man in check and content. I hope you can have fun with your friends as you Institute your slave weekend activities.
Second, as with anything, excitement always is greatest when it's first experienced. I was thinking back to your description of Karl when he left Vanessa's place having spent a day as her slave. My interpretation of your description of that time was he was greatly relieved to be back with you and away from her. It just makes me wonder if this kind of monthly "activity" will get old with him and he will soon be asking to become your full-time slave. And if that's the case what happens then?
Us men always seem to want new challenges and be pushed further and further. It's in our genes for sure. It's who we are. Karl seems to be no exception to that rule. Have fun with him in November!
Lady Grey, what an interesting solution you have come up with. It is most certainly a case of "be careful what you wish for" that Karl will be dealing with.
ReplyDeleteI remember your posts with Karl in "slave mode" and they are intense to say the least. I look forward to seeing things unfold.
I must note a comment from "I'm Hers" who teased you about a gramatical error. I must point out that the proper wording is "We men" in the final paragraph, lol.
This sounds an intriguing scenario, I think I need to read back through your blog as it sounds like it will be well worth the effort!
ReplyDeleteI am so proud of you for your decision. I feel like you heard your husbands concerns and took them to heart. Karl is a lucky man to have someone like you. It sounded like you had reservations in your head when you decided to ask Karl to give you his input. I know how I would feel if my wife would want to take on another male slave. I wouldn't be to sure that I wouldn't be jealous and I really would have a problem with this as I have remained faithful to my wife for almost 40 years. I don't believe in cuckholding and I don't think my marriage would stand this. I know you weren't talking of cuckholding with karl but this type of thing could have had bad repercussions. Anyway I applaud you for your decision and who wouldn't want to be a slave to you. Even if it was a week or more at a time. God Bless and take care. Steve
ReplyDeleteI'm Hers - Yes, it should be interesting to see if the intensity of being a slave on a regular basis proves too much for Karl. I'm a bit confused by your sentence "It just makes me wonder if this kind of monthly "activity" will get old with him and he will soon be asking to become your full-time slave." Are you suggesting that it would be easier for him to be my full time slave than being the slave of other women (and myself) on a part time basis? I'm not sure how you're coming up with this conclusion, or maybe I'm just misinterpreting the sentence. Please clarify.
ReplyDeleteAlso, you might want to reveal the "error" in my entry. I can't seem to find it. Oh yes, you might also want to check out Training Boy's comment:)
Training Boy - Yes, it gets very intense. I'll be anxious to see if Karl can handle it, but he really has no choice in the matter. He might well be sorry that he ever mentioned re-training, as I'm sure that he didn't have this in mind.
BTW, I enjoyed your comment to I'm Hers. Well spotted!
Robert_Anthony - I'm afraid that the entries describing Karl's first slave weekend have been erased, but hopefully you'll enjoy the postings that are still accessible.
Steve - Thank you for your positive words. Hopefully, you're getting some slave experiences for yourself!
Lady Grey,
ReplyDeleteYou now wonder if you've entered into a ho-hum stage for Karl and he might need stricter training to get him back on his A-game. And so he is now excited of thinking that 3 days/month will do that. I would be too if I were him. Wow!
My comment had to do with him eventually getting use to the 3 day strict life and eventually ask you for more... and of course you'd give it to him.... and what if he became your everyday/month slave .... would he eventually tire of that and in a few years time become ho-hum with even that life? Maybe, maybe not. Maybe, and hopefully the periodic weekends of slavery will be all he needs to remain perfectly content. But some men always want more. It's who we are, as I mentioned earlier. PS.... I most be the one that misread your post. I thought I saw the word 'be' typed twice. I hit control F and couldn't find it. Your perfect! I've failed yet once again - it's why you are a domme and I'm a sub I guess
Lady Grey,
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad to hear that you have arrived at, what appears to be, a win-win situation. You have the opportunity to both train a novice and to deepen Karl's training and he has the chance to experience an even more intensive form of submission. Nice to know that talking things out can result in positive outcomes!
Best of luck. It sounds like you are going to have some enjoyable times coming up.
I could use a bit of help though. I'm having trouble finding the "apply here" button. Where should I send my application? :-)
All the best,
FootSlaveE
"Us men always seem to want new challenges and be pushed further and further. It's in our genes for sure. It's who we are"
ReplyDeleteHow very well said!
Dear Lady, without wishing to boast "didn't I say it would take that turn?", I still make a last hm.. remark: bear in mind that after becoming a (real) slave, coming back to a "husband" situation is extremely difficult...
It's almost a no-turning-back way...
Nevertheless, my opinion is that once one has said "hop!", he must jump over the cliff.
I have no doubt both your journeys will prove intense.. And, after all , is it not what is important? we have but one life.. )
Best regards,
Alex
Wow, what an exciting time to be Karl. Making the transition from submissive husband to slave husband is a big deal. I, uh, would be nervous.
ReplyDeleteChastity devices that don't allow any erection at all can damage the urethra, permanently. You need to do a lot of research into that because once it is damaged it can't be repaired.
ReplyDeleteI'm Hers - Thanks for the clarification. In truth, I doubt that he'll want more than 3 days a week. If he does, we'll just have to deal with that situation if it arrives. Oh, and I'm sorry about your disappointment in not actually finding an error in spelling or grammar in my post. Maybe next time:). I probably shouldn't mention the 6 errors I spotted in your latest comment, but as you say, I am the Domme. Oops, that's 7 - you didn't capitalize Domme. Oh well, we can all use a good proofreader now and then.
ReplyDeleteFootSlaveE- Yes, it definitely pays to talk things out, and any husband/wife relationship - whether FLM or not - would be wise to keep that in mind. As for that "apply here" button, did you want the one for novice or slave training?
Alex - You have every right to boast. You were one of the first to suggest slavery as an option. At first, I gave it no mind, but things don't always work out as planned, do they? Thanks for your continuing comments.
sub hub in phx - Rest assured that Karl is indeed nervous, and with good reason. BTW, I just checked out your blog. Very interesting! Quite a lot of butt plugging going on. Enjoy!
anon - Well, that's something I didn't know about. I will definitely research it, and thank you for the warning.
Seems Karl has a lock on the slave training, Lady Grey. I'm much more a novice.
ReplyDelete-FootSlaveE
Thank you again for sharing, Lady Grey. I think this will more than cover any itch Karl might have. I also wish you luck in your search.
ReplyDeleteI am extremely curious about how things will develop over time as I think this will probably provide momentum for long-term changes in the both of you.
Will Karl come to crave this for more extended periods or will he recoil at some point and wish for things to return to how they were before? How long will it take for him to reach this crossroad?
I'm also wondering how it will change you as well. Will this tap into a part of you that will want to increase the frequency or will you miss his non-slave self and want to preserve it?
So many possibilities.
The chastity device may be an interesting problem to tackle. An "open air" device can run the risk of pinching if it is too snug and a closed device may get stuck on in a bad way. Something with internal spikes can run the risk of serious injury or psychological trauma-related ED. Blunter spikes can quell the impulse almost immediately but only after a serious attempt at an erection. That may limit options to devices that involve folding the penis or require piercings.
Take care.
Dear LAdy
ReplyDelete...Of course the logical continuation of the process should be extensions of the "lending periods" of Your slave" to a point when he.. ahem.. it will become a stranger to Your soul. And this is how Your feelings towards it should become.. first.. with a small effort and then, naturally..
This distance should increase with time up to a point when You will definitively have no more feelings towards it as You would towards a real slave .. something like a slightly intelligent animal, but more despicable as it had fallen from its human condition...
In the end, if only You don't manage to find a more attractive, more skilled and as devoted subject, chances are that you will do away with it..)
A slightly grim picture I'm drawing, but.. well! aren't those the rules of the Game ?
Very best regards ),
Alex
Fur - Yes, I'm wondering the same things you are. My guess is that Karl will eventually ask to be "un-slaved". I remember how hard it was on him during previous slave weekends, and I have my doubts that he can long sustain monthly events. Time will tell, and the question about how it will make us feel about each other is another that bears watching.
ReplyDeleteAs for the chastity, I'm re-thinking my "small and cramped" idea. One of my readers has pointed out the dangers of too small a device, and the more I think about it, a device that allows about half full mast might be even more frustrating for Karl in the long run. Half way there, and the barrier calls a halt, and all that. Experiments are in order. As always, thanks for your comments.
Alex - That's quite a nasty vision of the rules of the game. I don't think 3 days a month will evolve into the scenario you've embraced. It certainly wouldn't be my intention to discard my husband! I think you're reading much too much into this. At least, I certainly hope so.
Ah! dear Lady.. I thought you meant to play seriously ... )
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Very best regards,
Alex
So when's the big weekend? Hope you have a fun time and make your slave work hard! I would love to be in his shoes or should I say in your shoes with my tongue licking your feet clean!
ReplyDeleteHow are your preparations going, Lady Grey? Pick a weekend yet? Seems that Thanksgiving could be perfect. I'm sure Karl would have much to be thankful for!
ReplyDeleteHow is your search for a new trainee going?
All the best,
-e
(FootSlaveE)
Alex - Rest assured that I'm quite serious when it comes to Karl being a slave, as I'm sure he'd attest.
ReplyDeleteanon and Foot Slave - Be patient, my dears. Things are definitely afoot (couldn't resist the pun).
.. smiles thinly at the pun. following the stern tone concerning the seriousness of Your intentions regarding poor Karl....
ReplyDeletea very nice contrast... /)
Best regards,
D
Alex