One of the responders to my last blog (concerning the slave week that Karl and I experienced) asked about what more there was for Karl to do, considering that my home was already spotless due to my well-worked husband. An interesting question, as it implies that, as the Master, I must find something for Karl to do to keep him busy at all times. Let me assure you that this sort of thing would be as tedious for me as it would be for him. I certainly don't want to spend all my time supervising his every movement. Sounds a bit like babysitting to me, and I've never had any desire to do that.
So how does a Master keep her slave busy when all the chores are up-to-date? The easy answer is that all the chores are NEVER up-to-date. There's always more to be done, even if it means the duplication of efforts. However, the easy answer doesn't give me as much pleasure as some other options. I love bondage, I love knowing that my slave is unable to escape the ropes or the chains that I've wrapped him in. What's more, I know that my type A personality husband is used to the action of his workplace, and that depriving him of this action is a delightful form of torture from my point of view. What makes any form of bondage even worse for him is the addition of a confined space. Karl is definitely claustrophobic, so I'm sure you can see the possibilities.
Rather than having him clean the bathroom or kitchen, etc., over and over again, I find that time spent in confined bondage keeps Karl mentally, if not physically, quite busy. It turns me on to tie him up, or chain him, or to have him immobilized in a closet or in his cage in a dark basement or even in a large cardboard box. I love knowing he can't do anything until I release him, and I can get quite aroused just sitting on my sofa and knowing he's unable to do anything until I choose to let him loose.
As I've mentioned before in my blog, I often order him to come up with a poem or a song while he's in darkened bondage, and require that he recite the poem or sing his song perfectly upon release, or suffer more of the same until he gets it right. Imagining him going over and over that poem or song while he's incommunicado in the dark is a form of great fun for me, just as the actual recitations are.
So you see, there are many ways to keep slave Karl busy and myself amused, even if all the floors and dishes are well scrubbed. I'm not even going to go into the objectification exercises where Karl becomes a piece of furniture or a decorative statue. The point is that it's exquisitively delightful to make sure that a slave's life is never easy, even when he's physically inactive.
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Great post as always. Thank you. Could you go into more detail about objectifying him?
ReplyDeleteAlso in your last post you said,"He had made that leap of existing solely for my pleasure, and if that involved punishments that strengthened my total control of him, then so be it." Was the leap just about being able to take severe punishments from you or was there more. What was it he was doing or perceiving to get there? I assume you were much quicker to apply corrections and that they were more severe than normal? Sorry for all of the questions :) - AnonymousQ
Q - Your assumption concerning corrections is valid. As for "the leap", according to Karl it wasn't caused by any single happening, but it was basically a change in mindset involving a surrender of self that just seemed to emerge as the week went on. Interestingly, Karl later said that this surrender was very liberating for him, as he was now concerned with only following orders and pleasing me instead of the myriad duties he faced daily at work. How ironic that slavery proved liberating to the slave.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the response. I think I get it. It's almost like meditation. There is nothing to think about other than service to you. Clearing the mind, focusing solely on one thing has a liberating effect. I created/run a fairly successful company and feel like I'm constantly required to be responsible for everything in my work and family life. I think that's why I crave the escape.
ReplyDeleteMy wife and I dabble. She doesn't truly get it, but she humors me because she loves me. I enjoy what time we have given work and kids. I'm hoping time and patience allows it to evolve into more. The hard part seems to be getting her past the feeling of guilt for being the sole focus of sexual pleasure or relaxation and pleasure in general (ie massages, relaxing while I do chores etc). Discipline isn't even a remote possibility due to her fear of hurting me, but the funny thing is I think she's even more afraid of what it'd mean to enjoy it. -AnonymousQ
Q - I wish I had some magic potion that would enable reluctant semi-Dominant women to accept that giving out discipline (i.e. punishment)is not only an acceptable but a positive step forward in a D/s relationship. As you say, your wife evidently doesn't "get it", and I fear that you will remain frustrated as a result. At least she's willing to "dabble", which is more than a great many naturally submissive men are allowed. I wish you well in the future, and I hope your patience is rewarded.
ReplyDeleteYou'd be a VERY rich woman if you did :) Thanks! -Q
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ReplyDeleteSorry, Alex. I published your comment before I read the link that you suggested. Upon wading through it, I decided it wasn't appropriate to my blog nor relevant in any substantive way. So I deleted it. Let's keep esoteric semi-religious tracts away from my blog, please. Other than that, you're always welcome to comment.
ReplyDeleteLady Grey,
ReplyDeleteWelcome back. It is nice to hear that you and Karl are continuing to enjoy your adventures and have taken then to the next level. I look forward to reading more about Karl's time as a slave. We'd be honored if you'd share some of Karl's experience as furniture, a statue, or artwork.
Have a great weekend,
e
(FootSlaveE)
Excellent post and very interesting. From perspective of the slave it can never be underestimated how difficult it can be to be put in restraining devices, used as furniture, confinement, etc. In my own experience as a slave i have found downtime even more difficult than the actual chores and work because it always results in being put in a stock device or shackles. It is actually standard routine each evening after work is done but I would much rather continue with chores because it is not easy to remain still this way for so long as it can be painful with bones and muscles aching. I have actually found this one of the most difficult aspects of my life as a slave. Sometimes it is the worst punishment of all if i am left for long periods of time restrained like this. I have had to train my mind over many years to accept the discomfort and still find it difficult but it is in no way negotiable to my mistress and have been told it will always be like this .
ReplyDeleteBut it is not all bad, on the flip side i admit there is real value it has helped me become more mentally focused and forces me to reflect on what is important to my mistress. I see too that my mistress finds great pleasure in this, to have me beside her or at her feet restrained and waiting patiently for her orders. Existing only for her comfort and pleasure. Lady Grey thank you for sharing, i am sure Karl is benefiting from this too and he is lucky to have a mistress that reinforces his place as your slave even during downtime.
e - It seems there's a lot of interest in "slave as furniture" lately. I'll try to address that soon, and I get into it a bit in the answer to the next comment. Glad to have you back again.
ReplyDeleteanon - Karl would definitely agree with you. Remaining in one position for long periods is very draining for the submissive/slave, which, of course, makes it very appealing to the Dom. As you say, it's a case of "existing only for her comfort and pleasure", and that is the aim, isn't it? I asked Karl whether he'd choose a paddling or an hour or two as my footstool, assuming he actually had a choice, and he said he'd take the paddling any day. That is a bit misleading since having him as my footstool invariably brings painful swats to his ass with my crop any time he squirms to remain in place, and painful yanks on his balls which to which I have attached a rope that I yank at various intervals. And then there's the nipple clamps, gags, blindfolds, etc., all of which are available to me as I see fit. Not exactly simple "downtime", is it? Nothing is as simple as it may appear for a sub/slave.
NOTE: "which to which" in my last answer should have read "to which" without the extra "which" before "to". I hate to make typing mistakes, and I can't find instructions on how to correct them in the comment section once a comment is published without erasing the whole thing and re-writing it. Google Blog only allows the blogger to make corrections in the body of the post itself, not in the comments. Does anyone have a solution?
ReplyDeleteLady Grey,
ReplyDeleteIt's funny how you will think something is great, even before you experience it. Like Karl I have a huge foot fetish and I used to think being a footstool was the coolest thing. It even was at first when it was only for short times and my wife's bare feet were on my back. Or even better when she would have me lay on my back and put her bare soles on my face. Now she does it while she watches TV or reads for great lengths of time. She also makes me adjust my height to suit her needs. It is much more work and really the knees. Even when she places her bare soles on my face after a while this starts to hurt. I still would not have it any other way! Thanks for the great blog.
Mistress H's slave
Mistress H's slave - Yes, what seems as though it just has to be desirable in one's imagination can often become nearly unbearable, as you and Karl would attest. I suspect your Mistress H gets great enjoyment out of seeing you squirm, or reach a point where you're suffering mightily for her, bearing the hurt rather than disappointing her. Those are precious moments for a merciless Mistress, knowing the power that she has and (at least with me) getting very aroused at the whole process.
ReplyDeleteA sub male who is no longer writing his blog - as far as I can tell - once wrote about being forced to lick, kiss and suck his Dom's feet for a timed period. One half hour on each foot, one after the other with no break in between. He was thrilled at the prospect, but found the reality to be quite different, as the time seemed endless and much more enervating than he'd imagined. I'm sure his Dom enjoyed it even more as the minutes ticked by, which is really the point, isn't it? I trust that you'll be suffering for your Mistress H for a long time and I wish you well.
Lady Grey I am wondering if you hold Karl to high expectations and standards when he is ordered to massage or worship your feet or be your footstool? You mentioned you often use the crop if he moves too much which quite honestly painted an amazing visual. Is his overall level of work judged and are there more serious punishments to follow if you are not happy with this?
ReplyDeleteI ask this because my mistress has always placed great emphasis on proper attention and care of her feet and there is nothing more offensive to her than a lousy foot massage/worship. With that said it has become somewhat of an overwhelming task for me as it is not uncommon to be beat very severely if she is not satisfied with my work or simply unhappy with my demeanor throughout. A lot of my worst punishments have actually been a direct result of this. Just wondering how important this is to you and if Karl will suffer with punishment if you are not happy with this?
Respectfully,
-elliot
elliot - Of course I hold him to high standards, and of course he's punished if he fails to uphold those standards. That's D/s 101. Truly, I can't imagine why you'd even ask this question unless you were hoping that there would somehow be a different answer and it would help you to convince Mistress to be more lenient with you. Your Mistress would be remiss if she did not make you suffer for disappointing her, and wouldn't you feel less cared for if she had a laissez faire attitude toward your work? You should take pride in meeting her standards, and you should be gratified that she takes the time to correct your shortcomings. I suspect you rarely do a "lousy" job on foot massage/worship now that you know what to expect, and you can thank your Mistress for making you a better sub by adhering to her expectations.
ReplyDeleteYes Ma'am. I agree with you 100% I should be grateful for the standards set for me. It is somewhat of a silly question i suppose to assume it would be any different for Karl. Like you said maybe i was hoping for a different answer just because of the punishments but i wouldn't want it any other way. I am incredibly lucky to massage her beautiful feet and suffer if she is unhappy. I am try very hard, I always try very hard, it will be more rare I disappoint moving forward now. Mistress is also requiring me to enroll in night classes to work toward getting a massage therapist license too so I am confident this help. I know she likes your blog a lot and I suspect she may come across my silly question here which i don't think will end up very good for my backside but it is well deserved. Whatever her decision it is always correct, there is no arguing that. You always make a lot of sense Lady Grey. I have a enormous of respect for you Ma'am. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteRespectfully,
-elliot
Lady Grey,
ReplyDeleteReally great to have you back and interacting. You were so missed!
I'm curious which blog you are referencing? I totally agree that there are many things that seeing "hot" in fantasy, but are tedious, painful, repetitive, disgusting, or simply "not fun" in reality. I remember the first time I worshipped soiled feet. I was so excited. Then the reality of the grittiness of dirt, hair, and other stuff invaded my mouth. I so wanted to spit it out, or clear my tongue, yet her feet were relentless. Similarly, cleaning the floor on hands and knees leaves viscious burns and bruises on the knees that can take days to go away. Certainly a constant reminder of servitude! Speaking of hot in fantasy, but less so in reality, do you ever force Karl to consume disgusting food? Swallow your pee? Having done both, I learned the hard way that disgusting food really is disgusting!
All the best,
e (FootSlaveE)
elliot - Yes, it would be quite interesting to see how Mistress reacts to your question. Do let me know if it ever happens.
ReplyDeletee - I was referencing a blog called "Adoring A Domme Wife" which has been inactive for quite awhile, unfortunately. I'd love to know how both husband and wife have progressed, but I do understand that sometimes one just can't summon up the energy to continue blogging. The particular entry concerning foot worship can be found at the following location:
http://adoringadommewife.blogspot.com/2012/10/the-joy-of-kissing-her-feet.html?zx=401a64346a13dfc4
As for forcing Karl to consume disgusting food or swallow my pee, the answer is no. I take certain medication that might make my pee a bit dangerous for him to consume (I hope others are taking this into consideration) and unless you consider food that has been squooshed under my feet "disgusting" (which I consider a treat for him), well I haven't much interest in having him consume insects or somesuch.